I think that is a very wise decision ((Billi)). I did the same thing with my ex-boyfriend. I could not provide for him what he craved, needed, and wanted, and it was completely unfair how cold I was acting towards him because of my own hangups on the abuse I've experienced. I need to love myself before I can love others, and I need to heal myself before I will ever be able to be in a relationship that lasts, and that's of healthy give and take. I don't have any advice unfortunately, but I think you are being very smart about this.