It has to be face-to-face, ASAP. As you now know, emails are particularly vulnerable to misunderstanding. By phone as well, because you`re still missing out on that all- important non-verbal communication.

First.. it was a misstep on her part to have responded to you by email with any kind of negative or accusatory reaction. She let her own personal `needs` leak through. Therapists being human and all.. it happens.

The important thing to know is that rupture and repair is probably *the* most powerful healing interventions in therapy. Especially for those of us who suffered parental emotional neglect or rejection.

Your job is to, in an as unaccusatory manner as possible, tell your therapist plainly that what she said hurt. Her job is to be non_defensive, *really* hear you, and accept responsibility for having erroneously jumped to a conclusion about what you meant. In between all that, your therapist should be able to model for you and lead you through the repair if the rupture. When it`s all said and done.. you should be walking away with a profound sense of cleansing.. and a Much closer bond with your therapist, and an even deeper trust. It`s a therapeutically magical door to walk through, and it forever changed me and my ability to function in relationships.