Ok. You already know how I understand what you are going through, and care about how you are doing....

let me say, please, try to change your thinking.... try. Try to change even what you post... try. Even if you stop yourself one time only a day, that's a start.

The past is passed. It isn't today. And the past isn't tomorrow.

Yes, we both have stuff that seems to continue... from the past to the present, and expected to be in our future....

but while we are experiencing ongoing problems, that isn't to say that all those things that happened in the past are happening today. It just ain't so. The same people aren't in our lives causing us misery, the same operations aren't happening today, etc got my drift?

I don't mean for you to think I am minimizing what you are going through. NO WAY! I am trying to help you REFRAME your thinking... you did say you wanted to do that, right?

<font color=blue>Like, right now, I am not having to argue on the telephone with my attorney. Right now, I am not having to go through the pain of physical therapy. Right now, I do not have to even brush my hair!

Right now, I am in bed, typing a post to someone who is hurting. Right now my pain medication is helping me cope with my pain. ...

I will not project what has happened in the past to tomorrow. I do not know what will happen tomorrow, and until I can draw the good things from the universe, I will not put the bad things there myself. (Well... I try not to do this stuff, see? heheheheh)

<font color=green>What we are going through is part of the journey. We have more to contend with, because we are stronger people and would not grow with lesser tasks such as others have. It isn't what we go through, it is HOW we go through it... it is the journey.

(I am so depressed, I write this by rote, mantras my pain & stress management psychologist helps me learn... and draw on... I hope you can profit from some of it too.) I personally have to contend daily with NOT LIKING MY JOURNEY! One of the bones I pick with God.

<font color=blue> meditation is a true way to connect to the Source </font color=blue>