Thread: Feeling safe?
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Old Aug 11, 2012, 09:28 AM
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You can paste something over the cover of the books, brown paper, wrapping paper, whatever, to hide their fronts. You can put them backwards on the book shelf. I also think there might be an actual product that has a "fake" book cover that you can insert your book into, a bookstore might have such a thing.

I interpret "safe" in a few different ways-- physical safety (i.e. I don't think anyone is going to attack me), emotional safety (probably the same, but with the idea of an emotional attack), and as being "without worry."

I usually feel safe sleeping in my own bed, my wife beside me. Sometimes I don't feel safe because I have worries on my mind, and I can't fall asleep.

I feel safe in my own house, especially with the dog curled up nearby, unless it is dark and the doors are unlocked.

I feel safe in T's office. Sometimes I think about sitting there when I can't fall asleep, and then I do. But I also feel safe with her, because I feel like I can say anything and she won't get mad at me.

I feel safe in conversations with my wife, unless I am bringing up something I need her to change or something I need her to do. She can bristle at these things and even though she is far from mean, it can be unpleasant for me and the idea of not pleasing her can cause me anxiety. I really love her, and I want to make her happy, but I am also not a doormat.

I feel safe with my kids, at least at the stages they are at now. Although they can sometimes tease in ways that don't feel good, they are such good-hearted people that I know they never intend to wound, and they always apologize if they step over the line, and they are in general so fun and loving that I greet interacting with them as joy. But a year or two ago, the youngest had a pretty angry period where he would get pissed at himself during homework and call himself stupid and hit himself in the head. Even though he wasn't directing that at anybody else, it did not make me feel safe for him. And if my kids don't feel safe, neither do I.

I feel safe when I walk my dog through our neighborhood. Our neighborhood has like no crime, and my dog is BIG (newfoundland) although she would probably be a giant marshmallow if I actually needed protecting.

I feel safe when I take my computer to the coffee shop to get some work done or even just to write or surf the internet. I plug in my headphones and enjoy my drink. Sometimes a friend pops by to say hello but I am soon blissfully alone and in the flow of what I'm doing.

I think there are more examples, but this is probably already way TMI, but I hoped it helped. I remember working with the CTH and it was really useful to me. I would sometimes take exercises into therapy and there were times when my group decided to work on specific pieces as well. I think that's part of the beauty of the book, that you can pick it up and put it down, start in the middle, end at the beginning, skip stuff. Some stuff I found incredibly useful, others not so much. Whatever you do, though, it's way great that you are working on it directly. I don't think you can find anything not right about that.