I by no means am a social butterfly, but with the friends I DO have I had to put myself out there. No one was going to come knocking on my door. I'm 48 and have no friends from high school (which is fine by me!!)I think with the friends I DO have, I met by happenstance. Sitting on the park bench, hanGing out at the book store, in church--wherever you happen to meet potential friends I wish you luck in your journey.