I suppose healing for you, could be coming to terms with your "shadow-side" that is the dark part that everyone has even emotionally "healthy" people. Finding peace and acceptance of who you are.

Everyone's needs are different in Therapy. Some need more assurance, nurturance parental figure than others, some come to therapy for a guiding hand thru specific troubles or for advice from a professional.

There's no rights or wrongs. But i would imagine the Transference stuff and the need for an almost symbiotic relationship with the therapist comes from fractured early experiences and relationships of trauma and abuse victims more than someone who had a safe upbringing.