Thanks for the advice.
I tried church groups and lately I'm going to the gym and pool. However some days I feel 'inadequate' and insecure. I am very scrawny and brutally out of shape so sometimes it feels uncomfortable in groups where there are the typical "alpha" males and females. you know what I mean? I also seem to have a low-key, feminine-sounding voice for some reason so it makes me more insecure. I even signed up for Meetup.com but never actually followed through with going to events.
Is there something wrong with me mentally?
I noticed I'm very uncomfortable around guys particularly.. perhaps the inadequacy or a feeling that I cant compete with them. But then when I talk to girls I start turning into their 'gay best friend' even though Im straight.. so not what I want!
I remember a girl in a bar once asked me "so are you gay?"
I dont think I went to a bar again for a long time
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Originally Posted by bb2023
Hi anthony81,
I haven't seen you around before, so welcome  Ive experienced extreme periods of loneliness in my life - i have a very small family, and most of my friends either didn't live any where near me or didn't go to the same school i was at. I gradually got used to it and began to enjoy my own company to a degree but it doesn't hurt sometimes to get out there and enjoy doing something you love. Joining a club or doing sports activities would be the obvious suggestion but what about learning a new skill? could you join a church or maybe do voluntary work in your spare time? Could you maybe explain your situation to a close friend and see if their able to help you integrate back into a social group? I think if you distract yourself by getting out of the house and into something physical and exciting you'll feel less lonely and who knows, you'll probably meet a load of great new people along the way. Im free to PM anytime and im also on chat if you wanna talk there. I hope you meet some nice people here, we're a friendly bunch and just want to help. I wish you all the best |