I've heard before that one of the most important things in therapy is the relationship. Before diving into difficult stuff the relationship has to develop, you have to truly feel safe and psychologically you need to be prepared to handle whatever issues you are talking about. If you rush, therapy could be traumatizing so do not push yourself. There is no wrong way to do therapy. If you have to sit awkwardly in an office every week for six months talking about your dog that's ok! You are still there and that is your job to be there and to show up every week. If you want to talk about something 'tough' and just can't get the words out, try doing it a little bit at a time. Do not push yourself to go fast because it can be painful. You probably have so many secrets, once they are out in the open with your therapist you will feel so relieved but I was in your spot once, and I got angry and frustrated with my therapist - in the end things worked out. Just remember there is no wrong way to do therapy, you and your therapist are finding your own way.
I'm sorry this is difficult for you.
If you really want to push the envelope you could try writing something for your T... but even then you have to hope T asks the right questions so you can be open. I always wished my T would ask me things and be more verbal!
Good luck
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