Thanks, big mama.
To answer your question...
I first lived with mom then went to dad at age 8 after their divorce... so mom not around much after that really. The paternal aunts and grandmother were the boss at home and dad worked double shifts so he certainly was not one to sit and talk about birds & bees. haha. I had male cousins around but they were much older than me. I remember being into sports and baseball alot as a kid. The real femininity I started to feel in my mid-20s. I worked in the Village (a very hipster part of NYC) and was exposed to alot of counterculture. I had gay co-workers for the first time. I started doing mostly girl activities like yoga and having female roommates. So I sort of just fell into a more feminine side of myself. At the same time I felt that I craved girls attention and became obsessed with them that is another reason I gravitated that way. Some guys want to feel that deep emotional connection with girls, due to a yearning of some sort. Unfortunately it doesnt translate into getting more sex with them but the opposite!
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Originally Posted by Big Mama
Were you raised mostly by a female? Do you have any brothers? The reason I ask is often it is not hormone it is upbringing. I know several men who were raised by a female (mom) and dad was simply not around much. It does affect how you develop interests and how you behave with others. My own 2 boys are not so masculine. No doubts about there sexuality though. Straight as arrows. I personally am drawn to a man who lacks masculinity. I want to feel understood and most men are not capable of that. Those reared by there mother or another influential female do seem to have more understanding type qualities. I hope this has helped some. Good luck with this.
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