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Originally Posted by Big Mama
I am struggleing with when enough is enough. I am so done. I don't know what holds me back. I have I guess what once was called battered wife syndrome. Where you are not treated well but you stay anyway. My H doesn't hit me but that is the only thing. Controlling, never wrong, perfect in everyone's eyes. He intimidates me, he lets me know I'm stupid, he puts me down in front of the kids. I keep hoping it will work out. I wish things would change. They never do. We are seeing a marriage T. It is helping some days. Other days I wonder if I am just plain old crazy for hoping and beliving it will work out. I talk to the T yesterday on the phone. More or less she said you can only do what you can do. He'll change or stay the same. YOU have to decide for you what you will be able to live with. If you've tried (and you have) there is no shame in giving up. But it takes alot to give up. I am just having a hard time deciding what to do. What is it gonna take and how much is to much. I know no one can help me really. No one can answer these questions I just need someone to talk to. I'm lonely, alone, exhausted, fed up, afraid of the future, afraid off the now. I guess I'm just a mess and I think my H likes it that way. It is to comfortable if it is predictable. I just need to know I'm not alone, or that someone else is where I am or once was where I am or it's worse to be in the unknown. What ever, I'm just I don't know.
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Hi there,
I was actually looking for some ideas for a good friend of mine who is depressed, and i stumbled here. I am currently in the middle/beginning of a divorce and i have never in my life been so off kilter.I was married for 15 years, and together for 17. He literally gave up on everything about 8 years ago. We have 3 kids, 2 together, one that is mine. I was miserable for the past 8 years, and i feel like i tried everything. I suggested counseling, financial peace class, exercising together, medical intervention, and he refused everything. I thought i could hang in there til our 10 year old was done with high school, but i found myself becoming more and more withdrawn until i started scaring myself. I realized that i was setting a terrible example for our children; they thought it was NORMAL that we never spoke, about anything.. so when we even had a conversation that may have raised voices they were terrified. I decided for my own sanity, AND for my children to have a shot at a better relationship when they are grown.. i had to move forward with a divorce. He was shocked and has turned into a Monster. I moved to a condo, and am incredibly sad, and lonely. NOT that i would go back.. NEVER. everyone i have spoken with says that you have to climb this mountain, and once you get there, you will be SO much better. RIght now i feel like i am climbing with no legs over broken glass. Am going to see a therapist this week, and see what we can figure out.
Are you on any medication? For anxiety and depression? I am so sorry you are dealing with this, and even more sorry that i can't fix what you are going through. You are only able to do what you can do, and everyone does it at their own pace. I am happy to chat and just listen if you need someone.. life is such a challenge..