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Originally Posted by anthony81
Thanks for the advice.
I tried church groups and lately I'm going to the gym and pool. However some days I feel 'inadequate' and insecure. I am very scrawny and brutally out of shape so sometimes it feels uncomfortable in groups where there are the typical "alpha" males and females. you know what I mean? I also seem to have a low-key, feminine-sounding voice for some reason so it makes me more insecure. I even signed up for Meetup.com but never actually followed through with going to events.
Is there something wrong with me mentally?
I noticed I'm very uncomfortable around guys particularly.. perhaps the inadequacy or a feeling that I cant compete with them. But then when I talk to girls I start turning into their 'gay best friend' even though Im straight.. so not what I want!
I remember a girl in a bar once asked me "so are you gay?"
I dont think I went to a bar again for a long time  |
Im really sorry to hear you feel inadequate sometimes. Society has some pretty strange ideas about whats considered desirable or attractive. I can totally relate to the skinny thing - im very tall but only 105 pounds so i constantly felt like i didn't fit in growing up. Please know though that a lot of women aren't into the 'alpha' male types - im personally not into really muscly men, i look totally weird next to them!! Humans come in all shapes and sizes its just sad we don't live in a society thats accepting of this. Its greaet you're getting out there though and making good use of your time. Even if you don't meet many new people at least you're learning new skills and getting in shape - we all need to be occupied and it sounds like you just need to keep at it. Again i wish you all the best.