I agree, you definitely IMO were not whining. I also unfortunately don't have advice. I am with you though on those feelings and understand what you are going through right now. I am trying to work on shame with my T, but there's the rub, I am ashamed to talk about it. So the shame keeps me shamed. Meh, working through it probably will also make us feel worse before better? (just a guess there). I hope you find some answers here, anywhere, that will help you!