Shame has always been a big issue for me... it weighs a ton and to carry it around everywhere you go can be unbearable.

I find that the best way to deal with shame is to look at what you are ashamed of, really look at it. Ask yourself why you are ashamed, who or what in your life has made you feel shame?

You're ashamed of your body? The human body is beautiful and I'm sure you are beautiful. What is there to be ashamed of? Your weight? You have to look in the mirror every day and tell yourself how wonderful you look. Even if the weight was off and your body was perfect you would still carry the weight of shame, you would still not be happy with yourself.

Ask yourself where the shame comes from, who in your life made you feel ashamed?
Tell yourself constantly that you are wonderful because I promise you, you are.
Every human is flawed, accept your flaws.. if you want to change/exercise and can't then work on it; tthink about it, talk about it, express your feelings about it but do not blame yourself for things and do not be embarrassed over your body or your past experience. There is no reason to judge yourself. There is no reason to be ashamed of yourself. You are who you are, you have done and continue to do what you do... no wrongs and no rights - just you and just life, accept you and accept life. We accept you here and I don't know your story but no one ever needs to feel ashamed of anything, shame is an evil feeling.

Sorry for writing so much but I feel what you feel, I carry around so much shame and every day I work to keep it from suffocating me.