I think you are stereotyping abuse histories (and I agree with whoever wrote that these are not "sordid", you might want to look up the definition of the word if you don't get why this might be insensitive) and other somewhat common themes that exist among other common themes on this board.

I have abuse in my history but I've never had a rupture with any of my 6 T's in many years of therapy, and I don't email or otherwise write "lots of stuff" to them. I often don't feel connected to what many posters write about and what they struggle with, but I don't think I can make something simple out of that disconnection by saying it's because everyone else is X and I'm not X. I think there's lots to be learned even when you don't connect with an experience-- sometimes it's because I want to have that experience, but am not able to yet. Sometimes it is helpful just to know that not everyone has the same reactions that I do. Sometimes it is good to know that I'm not engaging in some kind of crowd-related goofiness, group think, we're all the same, it's us against them, that can exist in any group, online or not.