I know that you didn't have any bad intent. But just to be clear so you can really understand: here is the definition from the Merriam-Webster dictionary:

" Definition of SORDID1
: marked by baseness or grossness : vile <sordid motives>

2
a : dirty, filthy b : wretched, squalid

I'd really like to know that you understand that abuse victims are not sordid, nor do we have sordid histories. That is a word better reserved for terrible ENVIRONMENTS, not experiences or people.

And just because I was abused in childhood does not make me, or my life, "characterized" by abuse. My life is more characterized by who I have become, not my past.