is he still constantly playing video games? How is he your emotional support? I was kind of in the same situation, as I separated from my first husband I took a job that transferred me to my dream state. I ended up returning to my home state (stupid! stupid! stupid! but whatever ) and had the opportunity to talk to my ex several years later. I was like, omg, I am SO GLAD I got away from this nonsense, how did I ever put up with this???! And that was just a 10 minute phone call! So - do you really want to put up with his aggro for the rest of your life? Don't throw good money after bad.