I don't like to be dismissed. What I consider to be a big deal is important to me whether others agree or not. That particularly is true with the therapist where I am encouraged to tell her what is on my mind. To be dismissed after telling her sets me off. It is not that there is a requirement for ultimate agreement, but there is a requirement to take the concern I have as serious to me. I rarely tell others anything that is really a concern or whatever to me, and so to engage in what I already consider risky behavior only to be dismissed is not something I would put myself at risk at more than once with a therapist.

I also think telling someone that their therapist may be not good or is doing something I would not put up with can be useful as therapy is already cloak and daggery enough with therapists always blaming clients (resistance, unwilling to change etc) for everything that goes wrong - it can be useful for someone to hear it is not them but indeed the therapist who is at fault.