hello,
As someone had mentioned, it is normal to pull back from sexual relations. It is also possible to gain the sexual desire back. However, it will take work on your part and on the part of your husband.
The part that troubles me the most is your husbands lack of respect. If you have asked him to keep his hands off and he does not, it will hurt both of you. You need to be firm about the groping. It can trigger feelings that will cause you to pull away. I believe that many women who weren't molested would be upset with your husbands behavior. That is a problem that your husband needs to deal with.
You may have been molested years ago, but the feelings can stay with you until you have them resolved. I hope you consider seeing a counselor and continue to correspond at this site.
Good luck and stay in touch.