want my opinion?
follow your heart.
tell her to shut the F up.
remind her youre an adult.
and just start right now enforcing new boundaries.
shes your mom so she will still love you,
even if you do bash her head against the wall.
and that might not be a bad idea...
not literally. and definitely dont bash your OWN head against the wall.
but you need to push her away a little.
teach her how to treat you!
otherwise, you will never fly.