If you are putting your needs behind their wants, what does it get you? I mean I get putting The partner's medicine before your new party shoes, but why do you have broken glasses to buy someone else a treat? You, in my opinion, are allowed to have care for yourself and I consider seeing well a reasonable care for oneself. I am not meaning to be harsh, but LC I think you do get to take of yourself too. And not behind everyone else all the time.