RHAPSODY WROTE:
Hey Sabrina..... BREATHE before YOU react here.... for it may be nothing more than how males are different in the way they talk and express themselves verses us females

What I see here is him understanding YOU enough as a female that he knows that you miss him more emotionally when he is gone.... remember that guys are usually on a one track mind and when he is working he does not always miss you during the day as he is busy



Oh Dear!!!! I've been a man for the past 5 years and nobody bothered to tell me......Thanks guys, thanks a lot !!!! You’re the ones who pointed it out to ME, so you guys can bloody well tell my old man(he’s actually younger than me…but it doesn’t sound right if you say young instead of old)…and make sure you do it when I’m out of the country…;O)))))))))))

Hey Sabrina, I'm a girl, and your husband sounds exactly the same as me now, and you sound exactly the same as I used to...so I truly understand both sides.

When I needed someone else to validate my existence, to feel secure, I got very angry at my man for not making me the ONLY thing on his mind if he was gone (military) He didn't miss me like I missed him either...the ______ _________(insert creative nasty names here)...attach a page to the back of this form if you need more room...:O))))))))
I too was hurt, I too thought that he was mean and insensitive and that he didn’t love me like I loved him...I too was wrong.
I was insecure, he wasn't, I needed validation, he didn't
I was unsure of my worthiness of love...he wasn't.

Yeah so now that I've clawed my way back to a good strong sense of me, I find that I am exactly the same as what I used to loathe in him. I understand now.

When I am at work, I don't think about him, I think about work, when I'm out of the country I don't think about him, I think about what I'm supposed to be thinking about while I'm out of the country. etc, etc..

We are two different people, who happen to be very much in love with each other. Because we are different we need different things for each of us to feel good about ourselves, for us and just us.

We have little in common in our likes of music. If he wants to go see a band that plays his kind of music, he goes with other people who also like his kind of music...I love the guy to death, but I am not going to put myself through the torture of his music just to be with him...same goes the other way...it wouldn't even occur to me to ask him to go to a concert of music he doesn't like...I'd go with my buds who do like it.

Having our own lives outside of our relationship keeps each of us healthy and strong, and we bring that health and strength back to the relationship…which only makes it that much more healthy and strong.

Well, that’s how it was for me

Cheers