I used ot hate it when T or friend would say to talk about it and then I'd feel better. I want to talk for the sake of talking, I need to feel my pain and sit with it. The idea of making it go away is too much of a pressure for me. But I can handle talking to an empathic listener, provided there's enough trust in the relationship so that I can allow myself to express how I genuinely feel deep inside.
Take gentle care!