> we try to stick with what the poster needs, not what we want to give them. it simply not going overboard with long-winded replies that are confusing. not everyone has to know everything that we know, at any given time.

I understand that sometimes people are wanting support rather than practical advice... And that sometimes people are wanting practical advice rather than support...

But unless someone specifically asks... How are we supposed to know what someone wants?

Sometimes we want support because we don't have hope that there is anything we can do to change the situation. Sometimes we want advice to change the situation because we are having a hard time accepting it.
Sometimes we might want one thing, but we get the other, and BOTH are helpful at the end of the day because we can come to appreciate that we have a choice (in most instances) whether to accept or try and change things.

I know some people don't really read long responses...
I don't really read the threads that are full of shorter ones...

I like meaningful (perhaps intense) discourse in general. And that means... Posts get long. I'm sure I say more than someone wants to hear at times... Thats fine. People can put me on ignore or whatever. I know I'm usually stoked when I see that someone has put effort into writing me a nice long response. Though of course, as usual, I'm sure there is a middle way...