Here we go: CREATING SAFETY
As you begin work through these questions, it is good to get an idea of where you are in the healing process. Think of statements that apply to you: ( below are the options I picked from the book)
Just started having memories
Don’t remember specifics but know it happened
I have always remembered the abuse, I am just thinking about how it affected me
I want to deal with these issues, but don’t know where to begin
I am feeling desperate and hopeless; the questions won’t make a difference
Looking for affirmation of how far I have come working on my issues
Someone suggested I give it a go
Buying this book terrifies me

CREATING SAFETY
Have you ever felt safe:
Yes No or Not Sure
If Yes, describe one time you felt safe:
What about this experience made you feel safe?
If you have not experienced feeling safe, describe some feeling or beliefs that have kept you from feeling safe.
E.g people hurt me, I can’t depend on anyone, I don’t know what it is to know if I have felt it.
For me to feel safe, I would need:
When I consider the possibility of feeling safe in the world I:

Things to think about:
Can I conceive of feeling safe? Why or why not?
Do I deserve to feel safe? Why or why not?
Let us know once you have answered the questions and what problems you had. I struggled loads with this one and got really angry because I was finding it impossible and was failing at the first question. It took me a few weeks but I have just completed the first chapter and now it makes sense to lead with this.
Just shout up if it starts to drive you mad.