thank you. i used to have such confidence in my friends. when my mom died i was really afraid of interacting with my dad over funeral arrangements. (never did have a funeral, i still have her ashes in my house, it has been over two years... that's another story)

when she died i spoke with my friends, especially about sitting shiva at my house which i offered because obviously it couldn't take place in their home (http://www.idexter.com