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Originally Posted by hankster
I told my T that I think your T is trying to tell you that there is something your H isn't telling you, and my T said, well, why wouldn't her T just SAY that then? And I was like, oh, right...
Then my T though there might be something your T is not fully conscious of (in himself), as my T was. Hope this helps  BTW, I only brought this up to T cos it helped me see something in my own situation, which I forget right now what that was... |
I've once or twice brought up stuff that I've read here in therapy -- like you say, if it brings up something else that's happening. I appreciate your T's insight, it's kind of good to hear that from someone on the other side too. I know I'm not crazy, but sometimes when things are so tough I question my most basic perceptions. I even started questioning the chronology of events because he seemed so sure things went differently. This is seriously making me nuts.
It's funny, he actually DID say during yesterday's session that he had felt guilty about not telling me when his availability changed (which I don't feel too bad about, that sounds like something I would do too), and about having less time (also which I don't feel bad about, it's inconvenient but it is what it is). So it was a great in for me to be like, "Well the last couple times you felt conflicted or guilty about something, we wound up in the same place as we are now." He didn't really go for it. But obviously something else is going on. I'm going to wait a week to calm down further and write to him to let him know that I think that instead of working on his guilt on his own time, he's passing it on to me as something I MUST be upset about no matter how much I say I'm not, and trying to work on that somehow. I'm aware I could be wrong but it fits the way things have been unfolding extremely well. Anyway he can chew on that (or, more likely, ignore it) for a week until I return.
I feel like it would take a miracle for this to work out.