Also, Anthony81, you should know that males, generally speaking, are much more visual when it comes to attraction than females are. This is not to say that personal appearance is not important, but in many studies of human adult sexuality, men and women respond differently to visual sexual imagery. For a scholarly article about this, see http://www.psych.ucsb.edu/~roney/oth...ngs/hamann.pdf

But I think you are looking for a more simplified reply, no? If so, then go with the relationship first method. In the long run, it will be more fulfilling than the 15 minutes or so of the one night stand. Just my opinion...Best to you.