I know that death causes many different relations in our lives. I know when my Mother died Jan 2005, I was able to contact everyone that was left in the family. I was in the hospital myself while trying to arrange my Mothers funeral (I was the only one left in our family). I had to keep the actual funeral to only family & very close friends because of the trauma situation that happened a month before she died. Everyone was great & supportive at the funeral, & I haven't heard from them since then. It's like they disappeared off the face of this earth & we only see each other for weddings & funerals. My Grandfather & grandmother on my Mom's side only had one sibling each...& my mother & father were both only children & so am I & so is my daughter. That makes our family very small & the only one close that is left is my daughter.

The one thing that has happened though was that the wife of my 3rd cousin gave me a call because she is trying to put together the family ancestory & wanted to know if I had found anything when going through my mothers home. We have since become close & it is very awsome to realize that I do have family left.

I think if you take is slowly & communicate with those family members you think you have lost, you may find out that they aren't lost after all. They have their own families & busy lives, but I am sure that they will also realize that family is important & may not be quick in responding, but if you keep up communications, they will be there too. I realize that family is important & it really feels lonely to realize that you don't have any.....so keep up the communications....don't push, but gently keep it going......I am sure they will respond when they have time.....

Don't give up,
Debbie