Its all hard to describe.

I know you say socialize with the girl not sexualize. but then I find myself becoming a girl and talking to her about girl stuff. I start sounding like the character from Valley Girl and ask her about her shoes, talking about feelings, yoga, how I can't stand men, etc. and at that point I'm convinced she's thrown me into the 'gay' basket

How can I be a guy with her when I dont hang with guys and feel uncomfortable around them? I don't really know how to be a 'guy' really and looks are part of this.. looking like justin bieber will not trigger her to think of richard gere