I raised my sister until she was 9 ish. I left the house and she felt abandoned by me. She didn't get over this until she needed me at 22 and I was right their for her. I feel I failed her. At the time I don't feel I could be a good influence and was causing more chaos in our lives than me just leaving. Honestly I don't know what I could have done to make my leaving better. Moving was a power play that backfired. I'm happy for the girl she turned into though.