coming to terms with our pasts and our selves in the present is what it's all about. I go through cycles. On all levels. Have words, don't have words; am brave, am shaing in my booties;
have the anwers, nothing makes sense.....

For me, saying things out loud is like lancing a boil. a kind of letting go. Hard to make myself do, but, oh the relief after! All that "stuff", out of me, the pressure is off. things look different, more manageable, healing can proceed.

....and once you get things out once, and they don't seem so huge, you find yourself mentioning them again, elsewhere, and people respond and you get to find out you are not alone in your experience, whew, that is one cool experience!!! deep breaths come easier....... in your own time....