I think that number 9 and 10 might be the real keys to everything above and below that. Who nurtured you in your life? There's a lot of information on attachment theory that you might find interesting if you want to understand this from a purely psychodynamic perspective.

From what you've said, it doesn't seem like a personality disorder, but rather a longing to be cared for an accepted by someone who is soft and cuddly. But there are some traits of dependent PD and borderline PD going on there.

I read a lot of your posts from yesterday. Good luck with your progress and getting some help. A therapist might really help you dig deeper into these relationship matters. You could also benefit from the several suggestions that people provided yesterday on where to find a nice friendship that can turn into a long term relationship.

Good luck to you.