omg you are the first person who I feel is 100% correct so far!! I have spent many posts on here trying to root out what is the original cause.
You are sooo right.. I constantly seek "soft and cuddly", something to make me feel safe/secure and comfortable. I just realized I may have come off too sexual in earlier posts when it is not sex itself that I crave but the closeness and warmth of a female body.
I should also mention I really love pets. not in some twisted way but I just love caring for them, feeding them, watching them grow.. and snuggling with them.. especially cats. I feel like I want to nurture it as a child.. because I crave that nurturing.
God bless you so much for this!!!!!
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Originally Posted by regretful
I think that number 9 and 10 might be the real keys to everything above and below that. Who nurtured you in your life? There's a lot of information on attachment theory that you might find interesting if you want to understand this from a purely psychodynamic perspective.
From what you've said, it doesn't seem like a personality disorder, but rather a longing to be cared for an accepted by someone who is soft and cuddly. But there are some traits of dependent PD and borderline PD going on there.
I read a lot of your posts from yesterday. Good luck with your progress and getting some help. A therapist might really help you dig deeper into these relationship matters. You could also benefit from the several suggestions that people provided yesterday on where to find a nice friendship that can turn into a long term relationship.
Good luck to you.
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