Hi Rose Panachee,
i hope you too can take something from the questions the other people posed in response to my post. Certainly shame is something, a negative judgment passed by society, and those who have harmed us. Too bad many of us, certainly myself, have accepted these negative judgments. The trick now is learning to replace the negative judgments with more positive, life affirming messages. Step one is to catch and look at the negative messages and where they came from. Next is to challenge or interrupt those negative messages. Then replace the negative messages with more positive ones.
A lot of work many of us have to do to conquer these feelings of shame. All i can say is one day at a time and good luck to all of us.