I'm reading about Adult Attachment Theory and think I may have it.

When a child is turbulently separated from a mother at a young age and there is no real substitute for her afterwards, he develops a yearning for motherly affection all his life.

In my case maybe that has spilled into the dating game.

For most of you who responded to my threads you seem to be taken aback that I would be so affectionate on a first date.. it scares the girl and so on..

But when you live your days yearning for that female closeness and comfort I can't help but at least try to get a hug out of the girl.

If the girl did not have similar feelings of loss as I do then she cannot relate and naturally gets turned off by my overaffection.

So I am told to change, be less available, get to know the girl, etc... but is it really so hard for her to just stop and give me a big hug and kiss? a gentle hand holding and caress? If she cannot understand my attachment needs now how will she understand them later when its time to live together?