Sorry this is kinda long...just want to be clear!
My boyfriend and I are both 23 years old and have been living together for six months now, and in a relationship for about 8.

-->Background:
I met him about 4 years ago through some friends. I thought he was cute and had a crush on him but ended up getting over it because he was a complete jackass when he was drunk and kind of an asshole in general. I ended up dating his best friend for a couple years but that turned sour. He and I never really got along because he said he hated us together, which caused tension between us...They are like brothers and ended up both moving to different parts of France to pursue their educational goals. After about a year he moved back to our town and I was shocked to see how he had changed. He was kind, patient, romantic...so different than before! We started dating right off the bat. This obviously came with a few issues as he was still best friends with my ex and our friends were weirded out.

Now:
I work full time right now and have been financially independent for 5 years now. I have had many jobs, put myself through college to get my AA and paid for everything I need. This has left very litte money for anything else.
My boyfriend on the other hand, is an only child from a family that has had a decent amount of money. He has always had nice things and has traveled the world already.

The problem:
After returning from culinary school in france, he promised his mother that he would get a job right away. It has been at least 8 months, and he has not gotten a job. His mom pays his rent and gives him a little bit extra for food. He has no car also. Since I got my job three months ago, it seems as though he has gotten even lazier. He applies for a couple cooking jobs and calls it a day. He refuses to apply anywhere unless its a high end restaurant. He has only had two interviews and no call backs. I am starting to lose respect for him and get upset that he has no money to contribute to our home or relationship. When I bring it up he gets very angry, starts swearing at me, threatens me, and tells me to mind my own business. I calmly explained that this effects our relationship and he says, "You only want me to get a job so that I can buy **** for you." He has even stopped picking up the house when I'm at work, claiming its because I would "nag" him and anytime I do that he automatically refuses to do it.

Should I just lay off and let him be if he is making rent? Is it wrong for me to feel like I deserve someone who will actually want to buy me things and take us places once in awhile? Is it wrong for me to get upset when I come home and he hasn't moved from bed and the house is a mess? HELP!