EV, it took me 7 years and 3 T's before I found one I knew in my bones I could trust completely. I am the sort of person who likes to jump in with both feet and just get it over with, and I was stuck for so long because the whole thought of saying even one word about my abuse made me sick. Gregory told me to look at it as if we were going on a long road trip. I told him when I take longish road trips, I like to plow right through and not stop much. He said he preferred lots of potty stops, and so we were going to look at this that way. He gave me the freedom to stop or back off or whatever whenever I needed to. Once I got one thing out, the rest was a lot easier to talk about, and I have to tell you, it is a true joy to have someone else shoulder some of the burden for you.

Eventually I learned, though I still have setbacks, that it WASN'T my fault, and learned to put the blame where it belongs. It's very freeing. Take as much time as you need to get there, but do take a deep breath and start the journey. It will be the best thing you ever did for yourself.

I'm here rooting for you all the way. PM anytime you need me.

Love, Candy