Thank you so much for your in-depth answer. I don't have a therapeutic background but I read a lot of books written for therapists as I have found them to be the most helpful.

I hear what you are saying about him needing to set boundaries, and I do get it intellectually. Emotionally, it is a trigger and I become overwhelmed and become afraid, panic, and have difficulty controlling myself.

I totally agree with everything you said, how therapists can burn out and need time to themselves and wished I had never called and dealt with it myself. But, the had has been played, there's no going back.

Thanks so much and take care!