I really don't know what to tell you at this point other than just keep working on the marriage....it didn't get broken over night, it won't get fixed fast either & it takes a lot of work for any relationship that has been broken badly to get fixed. It's possible, but a difficult road to walk.....one doesn't just turn off then on again the love for the other partner in the marriage.....it takes time to rebuild the broken bridges & a lot of communication....you might not be able to cuddle her to make her feel better in the physical sense....but you can choose the approate words to show her how much you care & do it with words, not through physical means....it will at least show her that you are THERE.

Relationships are the hardest thing in the world in the first place & after they are broken....even harder to mend......it's all possible depending on how bad both sides want it.....but NOT EASY...takes a lot of time & patience.