Thanks for these positive words. I am totally committed to trying to repair/rebuild this relationship but I quickly get overwhelmed and depressed when those words of "I don't love you anymore and am not sure i ever will" rollout of my wife's mouth. I agree that these things dont happen overnight and will not be repaired overnight. We should have seeked counseling years ago to bite this in the bud so to speak, however, I have taken ownership and responsibility of my issues and am working on them. I get the feeling I have waited too long to seek help and now no matter what I do we will end up in a divorce or strictly "roommates" both of which neither of us want..." I am trying to be patient and comfort all I can with words but am also having major anxiety about the "what ifs" this doesn't work, are we wasting everyone's time, will we be going through a divorce leaving our family broken, both of us single and me totally broke..........this is the scariest, loneliest and most helpless feeling/that I have ever had. Hoping for a miracle.