Thanks guys. Never thought I'd say this, but I wish I had a T. I cant talk about this to family or people who know my family. Just can't. But i cant afford 1, and state only has them available weekdays, i can't take a day off, everytime i have an appt. Well, 2 of my sisters and my ex SIL textd me. Sis 1 and ex SIL sent love, and sis 2 (csa survivor) wanted to know how this convo even came about which is a FKN joke in itself...
*Vent alert*

He was on this trip about how I'm miserable coz i choose to be so bipolar (implied) and that I must reach out, try new things and change my life.

I tried explaining that I wasn't always miserable and that he mustnt talk about me as if he knows me, or lady bipolar.

Then he starts getting irate, saying us young ones are so defensive, dont take advice fr0m veterans.

Again, I remained calm, and explained that I do, my veterans are right here, i speak to them daily...

Then he says well he tried reaching out, I must let him know when I want a brother.

Now by this time I'm having a *****itch, and reply. 'would you seek advice from a gardener regarding your engine? I'd hope not, that makes no sense' also told him its a nice gesture, but even if I wanted to, i couldnt turn to him coz he clearly doesn't know me, coz I'm NOT miserable, and yet he INSISTS I AM! and that I don't appreciate being patronized by pretentious know-it-all understanding!

Then he sent that message about unfriending me, coz i attack him (yes, he's apparantly my victim) when he tries to help and the rest is history. Also told my family that if ANYBODY SUGGESTS I break the zero contact boundary, that they would get the exact same deal.

There was no denial, remorse, or shame in his words to me. None, not an inkling. I think that is what kills me atm...

Guess having a natural predisposition to the infamous *****itch has its perks... I managed to break the silence afterall.