If you know this about yourself, can you make a rule for yourself not to make decisions when you are emotionally flooded? Just let things ride, don't take action, wait until a calmer moment to make a decision. For example, about beeping your T during his non-working hours. If you feel flooded and emotional and want to beep your T, don't act on it, wait for 15 minutes and see how you feel. Do something during that time to distract or soothe. I agree, it is so hard to make good decisions when I am flooded. So I just don't do that--the consequences are often not ones I want. It is kind of like that neurofeedback scenario you painted in jest. If we do a behavior and the consequences are aversive, then we learn not to do the behavior. It's not an easy lesson, but it makes life easier. Good luck.