((eskielover))),

If you met an older man that loved to trail ride and fix up the farm and maybe go out to autions and check out some equipment and things/toys for the farm etc. A man that maybe the two of you could plan on some riding vacations and do somethings that turn you both on in the same way, I think you would be very open to considering a relationship again. At the very least you would enjoy the friendship of that interesting man.

We all have a way of thinking about relationships the wrong way, especially if we have been in a relationship that we somehow had to hold together and babysit the partner we had. And you are right, that is too much work to even think about trying again if you happen to get away from some spoiled dead weight that drags you down every chance they get, ugh, going it alone is much more inviting.

There is an old saying, "A family that plays together stays together" and that is very, very true. And somehow we have gotten away from that with all that has been going on in our economy and the way we have grown to look at marriages as well. Right now most people are focusing on just the basics of surviving and having a home, and these family outings and hobbies are falling by the wayside. Well, no wonder why people are falling into depression. We are just not designed to feel so vulnerable all the time. And in the times when all we did is focus on that "just surviving" we didn't live very long. Actually 25 was about the average life span, REALLY, and it was not unusal to lose more than one child to some kind of illness because we didn't have the antibiotics and other things available to us that we have now.

What is happening today is that somehow with all the marketing we are exposed to now, we tend to believe if we have the right "stuff" and "look" we can burst onto the scene and say, "here I am, I have what the market is suggesting is happyness so I am ready to be loved and adored". Well, we do not "shop" for a relationship, we are getting to a point where we are so blinded by "marketing" that we actually think that is what we need to do. Ugh

No, it is not even about members here giving Anthony a list of places to go "shopping" either. It is truely not about "shopping" at all. And that is what is being missed more and more and leading to, "If it doesn't work out, if it doesnt fit than throw it away". We are not supposed to be "consumers" when it comes to relationships.

Some of these dating services do try to pair people together that have common interests because it provides a better chance for a successful relationship to happen. But, the problem is that what can happen is someone can just pick out what they think may attract more women and not be really talking about their passion so in that, they are not going to make a true connection.

Now, we tend to look at a ton of actresses and models both male and female and then see what "type" attracts us and go "chasing" but that is never going to work either. A relationship is "not" a comodity.

Open Eyes