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Originally Posted by earthmamma
Gosh, these are the kinda reasons we're in therapy. Go! What a perfect chance for healing & deeper connection.
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I was actually quite surprised when I read your reply earthmamma, I thought I was getting a bit ridiculous in my last post and people would read it and think 'how to make a mountain out of a molehill!'.
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Originally Posted by hankster
yeah no wonder we need therapy, with a family that doesn't respect boundaries and won't take a hint, right? you really are entitled to your privacy, even in their midst, and don't HAVE to satisfy their curiosity. What are you, famous? What are they, papparrazzi? Are all your movements reported in STAR magazine? You have to leave, that's all. You'll be back later. You're meeting Tom Cruise, if they must know. I hate family. Unreasonable family, anyway. I know not all families are like this; some are actually human; my cousins are pretty cool.
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I had to laugh when I read this Hankster. Thank you for making me realise how completely narcissistic I was becoming by worrying so much about what my family would think when in reality me going to therapy is unlikely to factor into their lives much! I need to realise just because it is a big deal to me doesn't mean it is one to them.
Btw my family isn't unreasonable, they are all very loving, but I can't imagine just saying 'I am going out' and walking out the house without any further explanation, that'd be bizarre! But I do get your point that I don't need to make a drama out of it just because it feels that way in my head.
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Originally Posted by Bill3
Thank you for your detailed answers. How much easier or more difficult will the family situation be later in the week? If you postpone, what are the chances that you ill end up skipping the week entirely?
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The family situation will be a lot easier later in the week. I don't think I would skip it later if I postponed because I couldn't cancel twice...But I had a horrid interaction with my manager today trying to get time off work for that day which has made me a lot more stressed out and upset. It makes me want to hide under the duvet and not go into work tomorrow! But it has made me less inclinded to cancel therapy just so I don't have to go through any more stress of interactions! I think may be compliance/not changing anything will be easier in the immediate short term (e.g. tomorrow).
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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
My T says the best session are usually the ones I don't wanna go to ...and he's right.
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Yes your T sounds right to me too. I think if it were just the therapy situation I would be brave and go but all the family stuff relating to it is really what I am anxious about.
I think I have decided to go to therapy next week. With everything that has happened today I don't want to have to make another phonecall/change to plans. It is too hard. Besides you are all probably right and the benefit of going to therapy will likely outweigh all my other anxieties.
Thank you for all your advice and support. I really needed to talk all of this through so I really appreciate you reading all my long(!) posts and finding the time to reply.