So.

I think I have moaned about this to a couple of people already. Now I am even more confused ...

1) 3+ years ago meet guy, DJ with his own record (vinyl) shop
2) Get on very well, hang out, hook up etc
3) We live in different cities but see each other when I'm in his
4) I find out through mutual friend he has a GIRLFRIEND
5) In way deep. Things continue on
6) She finds out about me possibly through his phone (text messages). I start getting calls and hangups
7) She messes up, doesn't block her number, I ring it back and it's her workplace
8) I tell him, he gets angsty but is reasonable
9) I go travelling in Europe, I still get hang up calls
10) He takes me seriously, goes thru her phone bills (useless, she calls from work), has her up about it, she denies it
11) I get really grrrr about it all, email her and tell her what I think of her behaviour and what was going on with me and him
12) He ends up semi forgiving me (they break up briefly) and saying when I get back to NZ to give him a call but leave him till then
13) I go nutty while living in Glasgow, call him when I try n OD
14) He HATES me for a year and a bit (after helping me at the time)
15) Breaks up with the freaky gf.
16) Starts talking to me again
17) We are getting on so well ... he knows me so well, all my dark secrets, there is as much sexual tension as ever
18) Last Sat night he comes over ... I am dressed up in princess skirt from ball prev night ... stuff happens ... but i send him home at 4am
19) Last night he asks me where 'we' are at ... what do I feel, where do I think things are going
20) I don't know what to say .. so I say I sent him home because I was exhausted from prev night and also wanted us to take a step back before we went any further and see what we wanna do from here
21) He's cool with that but ... I think we decided to keep seeing what happens ...

WHAT DO I DO????????

He cheated with his gf with me. And has 'overlapped' other girlfriends in the past as well.

But we are older ... we are maybe wiser?

Do leopards change their spots?

Do I take the chance ... might he do it to me?

Is it a bad time to take a chance on a relationship?

I am sooooo confused ....