Tough love rarely works for me. It especially doesn't help to compare my pain to that of others who are worse off. That's something I do myself and my T often has to remind me that if someone has two broken legs, it doesn't mean that my one broken leg isn't worth treating and taking very seriously.

What you described sounds very minimizing to me as well. My jaw dropped when I read that he told you that your issues are "cake."

Maybe he needs that vacation more than he realizes.