Hi sidestepper.....Thanks so much for the kind words. I'm so sorry that you went through this kind of thing too, it sure can be painful. Also, it's interesting that it was speaking the truth that brought the end of your friendship....same with me, except with different details. My friend could never really deal with my depression, but she refused to admit it (even though it was so obvious), and when I finally told her what I thought, that was the end. And btw, I even used to tell her that it was okay for her to be uncomfortable with it....all I ever wanted was for her to admit that she was, and we could work it out together, but instead the door was slammed Thanks for listening ps....I do hope that you're not continuing to blame yourself, I'm sure what you said to your friend was said out of love