t1 used tough love on me a few weeks ago; i hated it at the time, it hurt incredibly ... but somehow it did actually shift things and get me moving and out of the mind frame i'd been in so maybe sometimes it does work ... it can also make things worse though so very risky

i hate minimising like you described though; and don't think that what you are going through can in any way compare to what he said it's like comparing an apple and a nail