I had long periods like that. I would look at a kissing couple on a train and wonder why they engage in their activity? It was just all so foreign to me. I now know that it was a combination of drugs and depression and situational things (tough divorce, divorce that I did not want yet caused).

I could not come, my sexual organs were not sensitive, and I did not have the drive.

Enter Prozac. I had a paradoxical reaction to Prozac. It kills the drive in many people. Me, it did not only lift from depression, it restored me to my original sexuality and I now can have spontaneous effortless touchless orgasms from thoughts (and now also thanks to Kegel exercises which were recommended by a kind soul on this board - they are great).
See http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=236276 for the description of such orgasms. I know BipolaRNurse has them and my late mom had them, but other than that I do not know anybody who would have them. My ex, who had had plenty of women prior to me, was very surprised that I have such climaxes. That tells me that they are rare. Thanks god to Prozac for bringing them back. Now if I could only find a med in place of Geodon to have not those spontaneous fleeting orgasms from thoughts (thoughts need not be hardcore, imagining kissing is enough), but long regular manual orgasms, and a lot of them. And I have a doctor who believes this is a good goal.

Like you, I do not know where to start a relationship. I have no idea. But I know that whoever gets my smoldering sexuality as a gift would be very happy. I just do not know where to find him. No clue.