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Nammu · Aug 16, 2012, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by whimsygirl

Hi sidestepper.....Thanks so much for the kind words. I'm so sorry that you went through this kind of thing too, it sure can be painful. Also, it's interesting that it was speaking the truth that brought the end of your friendship....same with me, except with different details. My friend could never really deal with my depression, but she refused to admit it (even though it was so obvious), and when I finally told her what I thought, that was the end. And btw, I even used to tell her that it was okay for her to be uncomfortable with it....all I ever wanted was for her to admit that she was, and we could work it out together, but instead the door was slammed

Thanks for listening

ps....I do hope that you're not continuing to blame yourself, I'm sure what you said to your friend was said out of love

Thank you. Sad isn't when we want an honest relationship, but sometimes the other person isn't ready for that. No I don't blame myself any more, what I said was truth. Ironically she has a PhD in counseling but I'm afraid for her. She mixes alcohol w/ Rx pills. I never knew how much until I too needed pain meds. I stopped drinking, she said it was no big deal and tried to get me to drink with her. She kept researching for more med's, different docs. She was on so many, everyone worries about her, her husband was afraid to say anything for fear of how she would react. So I said something, I think it was pointing out the obvious not being able to get to work on time, that made her the most angry. The real reasons she did not get the promotions. I knew too much about her life, we were in and out of each others house, we were together too long for me to accept her rationalizations. I loved her like a sister, but she could not allow me to be around after that. I still worry that I'll hear she crashed.